Dear AfterEllen, I have fallen for a woman 9 years my senior. We love each other and I am incredibly attracted to her. This hang-up of mine is definitely damaging our relationship.
Despite their year age difference, the lesbian couple has no age-related issues, bar one. We know and accept that reality. Although neither of us is religious, we both feel blessed to have found one another.
Ellen Page and Julianne Moore starred as partners in Freeheldthe true story of the love and lawsuit of Stacie Andree and her much older partner, Laurel Hester. Also worth nothing Sarah has previously dated another older actress, Cherry Jones. As someone who has had multiple relationships with women 10 or more years older than me, the emergence of this dynamic modeled in popular culture has provided cause for excitement, as well as an opportunity for self-reflection.
While the difference in age will lead to a few hiccups along the way, there will always be benefits to make up for them. Both a lesbian cougar and her younger wife or girlfriend will be able to experience life from a completely different point of view. Younger lesbians will go to certain clubs and have a certain type of friendship group.
A survey found that LGBT people were more likely than straight people to be attracted to people ten years older than them. Our own Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey conducted last month, results still being tabulated! They had twins in !
Queer women who date despite significant age gaps challenge mainstream standards of beauty, rewrite stereotypical relationship power dynamics, and subvert a bunch of social rules regarding sex and love. But it's not always easy. According to their social media PDA, at least, actors Holland Taylor age 72 and Sarah Paulson age 40are ridiculously, deeply in love.
Other times you're naturally attracted to women older or younger than yourself. Some people claim that age differences do not matter in relationships. But the truth is, it often does.
Traditional society has in no way prepared you for the allure of a much older woman - or the attraction of a much younger one, for that matter. For an average age of 32 the gap is 7 years, and for an average age of 45 the gap is 9 years. In all age gap categories except the median 1 to 4 years for both same- and opposite-sex couplessame-sex relationships outstripped the opposite-sex relationships for less-than-a-year,and upwards age gaps.
By Allie Connell April 3, The study was conducted by polling 2, men and women about the state of aging in America and how their attitudes towards age impact their romantic lives. While it was not stated how many queer people were included in the surveyed population, the results showed LGBT respondents were more likely to be attracted to an older individual. In speculating the causes for this trend, the lesbian blog sphere has been atwitter.